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Struggling with…
Creator’s Block… When I first started this…a few months ago, I was so thrilled, I was having tones of ideas of what I will post, when it will be posted, e.g. Then, little by little, I was going on almost every platform, struggling to post as much as I could, while having to take good care of my kids, having&keeping a 9 to 5 job ( more 8 to 4 for me😁)…and all the other house chores. I’ve heard about Creator’s block But I’ve never imagined it could be& feel so deep. Maybe this is also because I can feel…
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Mom, how do I make new friends?
What do we say to our children when they tell us:“I don’t know how to make friends!”?I was thinking about this topic, as I got this affirmation from my preteenage daughter, and I realised that I didn’t gave her a really useful answer.As I want to guide my kids the best way that I can, I thought of:How does somebody that I call my friend makes me feel ? IsHe/she making me feel good , understood, loved, appreciated and/or having my qualities acknowledged?I’ve realised that I’ve chosen my friends based on their qualities resemling mines and that I felt understood…
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What each one of us should pay attention to
The Cycle of blocked counterwill (part of Neufeld making sense of the counterwill course) 1. When you get stuck, your partner starts to do pressures; 2. When you feel pressured, you act the brakes; 3. When you get stuck in resistance, your partner has a tendency to remain stuck in insistence This 3 parts act “tragedy” was studied with regard to the relationship of child-parent, but I’ve noticed it manifesting in each of our relationships that has an element of powerplay.And I want us to stop and pay attention to this, as we can always choose to do things differently…
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What teenagers should know (2)
…then it probably is! I cannot stay and watch from the outside how our teenagers are affected by these manipulation techniques! I don’t know if this happened to you too, but each one of us have a friend, a child, maybe ourselves, that struggled with some inexplicable behaviours and we got to see the pain and suffering it brought to them/us. As parents, I think we should make our teenagers aware of the fact that such behavior exists and some people adopt it for their own benefit, unfortunately. I know it can be dissapointing for them to hear/read about this,…
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TEENAGERS…WATCHOUT FOR THIS
There are so many ways in which our self-esteem can be threatened by others behaviours that, sometimes, it scares me to think that we, as parents, would need another 24 hours and a good relationship with our child, to be able to point such things out to our children and that…we don’t have another +24hours a day, right?! Then there is something else … busy as we are, going through our day-to-day life, it’s hard for us to even learn for ourselves all there is to know about behaviors that we came across, that bothered us, that made us feel…
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The struggle…
We all go through life experiencing different types of struggle. When we’re a child, we struggle to learn as much as we can and to be able to do it ourselves. But, it’s a joyful struggle, because we don’t really feel the need to always be right, we don’t get to be upset so much about the fact that we did something wrong or that we made a mistake. Then we become teenagers…and it seems like all we do is wrong and we’re taught that mistakes are not allowed or approved by the majority of people, starting with our teachers…
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What a teenager should know…(1)
The need to socialize and the need of belonging to someone or a group of people is a natural and undeniable human need. But, you gotta figure out the cost at which you’re getting these needs met. If the costs of it is way bigger then the return on your investments, it’s an illusion and it doesn’t worth it!Just think about it! What’s the investment that you’re putting, in and what’s the return on that investment? Do you spend much of your time in thinking and analising behaviours and/or personal styles, in order for you to copy them?!Do you spend…
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The wrong way…
Sometimes, we, as parents, are so wrong as to how we react to something our child does, that it takes one word to make them feel bad, innapropriate, ashamed and a lot of work for us and for them to repair the damage we’ve caused. It’s 8 o ‘clock in the morning, and I hear a little girl playing and singing outside, after a rainy night. Her laughs feels so innocent and real, I can feel her joy just by hearing her. A warm feeling of love just flows through my hole being as I contemplate the beauty of childhood!❤️That…
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Stop blaming…
We sometimes tend to blame everyone else for our life, for our day to day experiences, for feeling one way or the other. Why do you think this happens? It’s really easy to look for the mistakes in other’s behaviour, and convince ourselves that they are the only ones responsible for our sadness or other not pleasant feelings, but is this the right way to go about it? Have you noticed how, when you’re feeling good and everything around you seems as great as you feel, then you’re convinced it’s all because of you?🙈😁 Soo…why shouldn’t be the same when…
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Stop putting yourself first…
These days, we hear these saying all around us Put yourself first! And I think it can be really damaging for the people that are in someones life, someone who hears these Words and doesn’t really know the meaning behind them. Just imagine… If I don’t know what this truly means and I start, all of a sudden, to think only for me, for my benefit, disregarding all the needs of my loved ones, what will be the message that I’m sending? I will confuse them and I will also deprive them of my needed help, even if we’re talking…
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