The Unconventional WOMAN

And why would I?

I don’t feel guilty of getting a divorce, even if I have children with that man.

I know, some say that it’s a terrifying thing, for a child to get through a his parents getting a divorce.

But, is it really like that?

If I choose peace of mind, for myself and my Kids; if I want them to see how to have a home where there is love between the two partners should look like; where they would feel safe and heard; where their mother and/or father are happy, at peace, not argueing or being absent or irritated all the time…

What would I feel guilty about?

We hear everywhere that, living in a toxic environment is not healthy for us, but, at the same time, we somehow make parents feel guilty, for choosing not to continue a toxic relationship.

If I want my daughter to stand up for herself, when she feels mistreated, staying in an environment where I am mistreated is something that will help her to learn that?
Children learn by example, not by just words!
You know those times when,  you ask them to put down that phone, meanwhile you’re watching a Netflix movie on yours… what’s their answer? Usually is “but you’re on your phone all the time. Why should I do something different than You?”

It is the same thing!
We want them to feel safe, we want our daughter to know her worth, we want her to feel loved and appreciated; but we stay in a relationship that doesn’t bring us no happyness no more, where we are mistreated, disrespected, hurt.

I don’t get it!

And why am I staying?

Because I feel guilty; because I Know how people would talk behind my back; because I hear so many, talking about how bad it is for a children to go through that; because we fear that feeling of not good enough.
But wait! Are those people there with me, when I’m suffering? Are they aware about how often we fight and what that does to a child? Do they even have children?

Come on!

And I should feel guilty?

I know it isn’t and it wont be easy, I know they need both parents in their lives, I know I need to make other sacrifices for them to get over this, the best that it can be done.
And I know I am capable to do all it takes to keep them safe.
I know I’ll have to stay in contact and work together with their dad to make this as easy and successful as it can be!

So?!

I’ll just do that!

And I won’t feel guilty!

In fact, I’ll be proud of what lessons I teach to my children.

I’ll be satisfied, being in a healthy and loving environment that I can provide for them and, with a little bit of luck, they might get the same treatment from their father too.

Be proud!
Stay tall!

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