The Unconventional WOMAN

Everything I did, I did it for bettering my life and the lives of my children, the ones I love. I did it from a place of benevolence, I did it trusting that I’m doing the right thing and that trust came from within. Every change I made in my life felt good from within.
We all have that intuition that can guide us, if we pay attention to it and trust it.
If you take a pause and think about a moment in time, in your past, I am sure you can find an evidence of your intuition knowing exactly what that person was like or what was expecting from you, despite their words. Isn’t it?
I had so many moments like this, from an early stage of my life, that I’ve learned realy quickly to trust my intuition, my gut feeling. And that’s what I did. Because I also observed that if I follow that gut feeling, it only brings joy and beautiful things in my life.

You may be wondering where I’m going with that.

Well, I have two things to share with you, in order for you to understand how easy it is to live a beautiful life, a life without guilt or shame or frustrations.

First of all, I haven’t done anything from a place of negativity.
Meaning, my divorce wasn’t about revenge or hatred or resentments. It was about feeling&knowing, deep inside, that I should feel better in a relationship. It was about wanting my Kids to grow up in an environment where there is love, where there is respect, where they feel allowed to be themselves and accepted for their uniqueness. I wanted the same things for myself too!

I have always thought that HOME should be that place where you can be yourself, without having to watch your words carefully, where you can politely express your concerns or interests without being judged because they are different from the other members of your family; that place where you go with an open heart, without fearing for bad reactions.

HOME is a feeling, for me! A feeling of belonging, a feeling of joy, happiness and love.

It wasn’t about what I was escaping from, it wasn’t about hatred thoughts, it was about what I was moving towards. It was about that HOME feeling, it was about knowing that our lives will get better, if we want to, and if we are keeping our environment safe and full of love and acceptance for one another.

Second of all, like I’ve already mentioned in here, I was trusting my gut, my intuition. It was telling me that I can have that HOME, but not in the same environment I was in, not in that relationship where I felt I had to be and do and feel different from who I was, just to be allowed to have that existent relationship.

There is power in recognising you’re not welcomed any more in the relationship;there is power in accepting your flaws, your mistakes; in accepting the role that you played in that certain situation and the result of it.
It’s liberating to say:
“YES, they weren’t the only ones making mistakes, being absent from the relationship, not giving attention to the changes that drove us apart!”
“Yes, I did it too, and I forgive myself and them too, and I choose to take the lessons, and to trust that having learned the lessons, I’ll have a better opportunity in the future!”

Leaving a relationship, a situationship, a workplace, an environment where you don’t feel like you belong anymore; from a place of trusting in what’s to come, was and is the best gift that you can give to yourself and, in my case, to my Kids too!

I am writing this piece of me…from my garden, from the frontyard of my dream home, which once, was just a desire.
My kids are happy and having fun with one another; they are getting all the love I have and they feel loved and accepted, as this is what I feel inside, this is what I have to give abundantly! They also can watch and learn about how a healthy relationship should look like, because I have a wonderful man by my side who loves us and does anything in his power to show that. They are also getting the love from their father, to whom I have a healthy co-parenting style.

“All you need is love!”; Isn’t that what the famous lyrics say?

Well, it all starts from within!
It all starts with loving yourself that much, that you took the time to know yourself and find out what  you do like; what you don’t like; what are your strenghts and your whicknesses, and accepted all of YOU, all that You became, so that you can share your trueself with your Kids and the ones who are ready to receive and give back all the beautiful feelings that are available in and from their heart.

Happiness is a choice!

LOVE U!