The Unconventional WOMAN

The need to socialize and the need of belonging to someone or a group of people is a natural and undeniable human need.

But, you gotta figure out the cost at which you’re getting these needs met.

If the costs of it is way bigger then the return on your investments, it’s an illusion and it doesn’t worth it!
Just think about it! What’s the investment that you’re putting, in and what’s the return on that investment?

Do you spend much of your time in thinking and analising behaviours and/or personal styles, in order for you to copy them?!
Do you spend all of your money to get that return in being recognised as one of the group members?
You’re greatest assets are time, thought and values!
Are you “trading” them fairly?

Cause, if you aren’t, you’ll never get the results you’re yearning for, no matter what you bring to the table.
I will go deeper and give you an example.

If you’re trying to be one of the members on your wealthiest colleagues group, you will soon find out that you can’t keep up with them, unless you are also one of the wealthiest ones.
And, I think you can figure it out why is that.
Suppose you’re going out with them and you’re provoqued to play the latest teenagers game of buying all the cool stuff you find, and the winner is, of course, the one who has bought the most things?!
Are you able for compete with that? Or, if you are, at the moment, can you Keep up with it, everytime you go out with your colleagues?
I’m guessing the answer is not! Or, to say it better…for the sake of demonstrating my point of view, we’ll say NO!
Well, in this case, do you honestly believe that you’ll be a member of that group for too long?
I’m guessing NO.

But, you know what’s the worst part of it?
You’ll feel so much dissapointed, and not only for the fact that you’re “banned” from the group, but much more because you’ve sacrificed your core values and personal preferences, in order for you to fit in, when, instead, the REAL YOU LIKES simple things, you’re actually the kind of person who likes, for example, to make the most of the pennyless outfits.
And you’ve consciously decided to go against what you like, in order for you to be accepted in that group, to feed your need of belonging.

TIP: look around you!

There’s always someone who likes what you like!

But they definitely aren’t a part of the previous group I was talking about, and, …,you know why?!
BECAUSE EVERYBODY IS TRYING TO FIT IN!INCLUDING THEM!

LOVE U!