The Unconventional WOMAN

Have you ever had that feeling of looking at someone who was smiling and feeling that they mask something that’s not so good happening in their life?
Who taught us to put on a brave face even when we’re feeling sad? Was there a moment when you were a little child and you were crying and your parent told you to stop complaining because “You’re big enough to cry!?”
Was it something like: “You’re a big boy/girl now and big boys /girls don’t cry?!”
Is it this Era we are living in, because wherever you look, you only see smiling faces, “happy home happy life”, sharing pictures that only capture a moment when, eventually, you were told to smile, because we’re taking this picture?!
Who are we trying to convince upon this great life that we’re living? Is it our friends? Is it our parents? Is it our children?
How is this going to benefit anyone? Even yourself?
There is something bigger than our ability to look at someone and, if we are capable of noticing it, that inner knowing always tells the truth.
So, why bother to mask one’s sadness or discontempt?
I happen to think it doesn’t help anyone this kind of attitude, especially ourselves or our children, if we are trying to raise emotionally intelligent children.
I know from my own experiences that it’s hard to admit when you are feeling let down by someone, or you’re feeling misunderstood by the ones that you love e.g.
But doesn’t it feels great when You can be your true self and admit to your true feelings and be understood and accepted by the ones you have feeling for and vice-versa?
Why are we prone to think that is better to suffer in silence then to observe what it is that’s bothering us and expressing it, in order for us to not have to recreate the situation that is making us feel that way?
I happen to think that, if we are really wanting to raise emotionally intelligent people, we need to show some respect for the inner knowing of ourselves and of our children; in that way also teaching them that there is nothing wrong in feeling sometimes sad or overwhelmed. Instead, teaching them that, articulating this to the ones who care, it only gives them more trust in themselves and their ability to “read” someone’s state of being. It will also make us get rid of that impostor syndrome and just accept that we are humans and we are always learning something new about ourselves, anytime we admit to what we like or dislike.
Think about it!
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