The Unconventional WOMAN

I’ve heared this today and…I agree with it…NOW.

Let me explain…

Going through such a challenge is painfull as hell. When you’re experiencing this, there are small to none chances to think of anything less than the fact that you were betrayed, you are not loved, you’re not enough, e.g.

In time, the pain looses it’s strenghts and you can think clearer.

If you’re a person who is willing to look for answers, taking into consideration the other side of “the story”, you might find interesting things.

I heard this from men and I’ve also noticed  this “craving” for admiration in men, and, of course, also in women.

I also learned/studied about our definitions of things we like, of emotions we have, of facts and how can we acknowledge and/or change them.

Why is this important?

Because, my definition of good times spent together, of showing that I care for you, that I love you, might not be your definitions too.

So, that’s why we say “he/she got it all, but he still cheated/lied”.

Think about it… He/she got what we thought was “all”, from our point of view, from our definition of “all”.

I think this concept of cheating because someone  was looking for admiration from his/hers partner could be really accepted, just by looking at the theory of “The five love languages” of Gary Chapman.

If my love language is “services”, and what you’re offering, from your love language to show you love me, are “words of empowernment”…do I feel loved?

Think about it…slightly possible, isn’t it?

Soo…I feel I’m not appreciated in this relationship, but there are people out there (cute ones even :), who are empowering me, each time we see each other. Well, it gets interesting, because I get my admiration from another person, one who is willing to give me attention, with or without an ulterior motive.

And things take this turn, and…I’m soo sorry, I don’t love that person, but I got my attention and admiration from him/her. Then, I say that to you. Most of the times, I’ve even said it before, for a couple of times.

You know why? Cause, in that moment, this is my truth. It’s not about you, it’s about me …in the end.

Well, I’ve tried to give an example, just to make our mind go beyond what would be a first reaction to this betrayal.

I don’t say it’s ok, I don’t encourage it and I know how devastating it feels.

I’m just sharing a reality, something that could ease your mind and maybe make you feel some sort of relief.

LOVE U