The Unconventional WOMAN

Empower Your Response to

Shock and resistance

SHOCK AND RESISTANCE – the normal response of our brain to any new “problem”, that our brain interprets it as being dangerous for us is, in fact shock, followed by resistance in even accepting the existence of this new “thing” into our lives.
Still, here it is, and we have to deal with it, quicker than preferred to.
In my journey, the first thing that came to my mind was “this is it, you’ll have to accept it and deal with it, as there is no other way!”
So, this thought helped me to accept where I was and to find solutions to overcome the stuckness and helplessness that was haunting me.
I didn’t have the time to stay in shock, as I was thinking of something bigger than myself, and that was my children’s emotional wellbeing. I had to be there for them and I couldn’t have done it if I were to remain stuck in resistance.

So, what did I do?

The best three things that I did and made a big difference was:

• 1. Not listening to others advices, as they were all implying that sense of helplessness, that I didn’t need, and also were influencing me to take actions that were not aligned with what I had in mind, that being to keep my children’s emotionally safe, by any means, including doing things differently that what could be expected.
• 2. Accepting the reality as it was and giving it another definition. It wasn’t about something scary, that was out of my control, it wasn’t about finding someone to blame, it had to be just an opportunity for me to be the independent woman that I’ve always thought of me being and also the opportunity to raise my kids exactly how I was feeling, not fighting for every choice I was thinking to make and/or any action that implied my parenting style (for example).
• 3. Just trusting that it will all work out for the better, for each and everyone of us.

As soon as I did these things, and I allowed myself to accept and to trust in what’s to come, I felt a relief, it was peaceful inside, and that’s how I knew it was ok to step outside the confort zone that my brain was keeping me in.

It felt right!

There wasn’t, anymore, something made out of fear or denial, it had been replaced by something that I was consciously choosing to do, to be, to have!
It was peace of mind and trust!

Giving the fact that being at this stage is difficult and you have to find solutions to more than one subject, one of them being how will you and your ex-partner interact with the kids, I’ve already did a plan for co-parenting, that may inspire and help you.
You can download it for free, using this link:

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If you have any questions or things you think I could help with, somehow, please don’t hesitate to send me an email and I’ll get back to you asap.

Also, if you want to be a part of the community that I’m building for all women going through some of the same struggles, and wanting someplace safe to open up, you can follow this link

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You’ll get notified when I’ll start the webinars and live sessions and I guarantee you that, being a part of this community, will help to you, and that is because you’ll be in a safe place, it will be a closed one community, you’ll only meet women who are also looking for and opened to viable solutions, you’ll find therein a so much neede accountability partner and, the best part is that you’ll get the chance to speak out, when you need and feel like doing so!

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