The Unconventional WOMAN

I was having a conversation with my daughter, and I was asking her:

What are the struggles teenagers are facing these time?

As we are very close to one another, and she is used to have these conversations with me, she started listing these 5 things, which resonated with me so much, in terms of what I feel the people close to us need to hear more often…that I’ve decided to share this with you too!

Soo, here We Go

5 things we all need to hear

YOU ARE ENOUGH

It turns out that, in most cases than we would think of, our kid feels inadequate, as not worthy or being enough.

You know that time when we’ve told her/him that a C+ ins’t going to help him get that cqreer we’re envisioning for him; or that time when he/she got all dressed up, feeling pretty good about themselves, only to be sent back, by us, to “change that weird outfit”? We can go on with this all day, but I know we all got where I ‘m coming from with that.

Well, it turns out that all that they hear is “You’re not enough”, “You’re not worthy of my…(time, love, appreciation).

It’s sad and unfair, and I know it feels like I’m blaming us for “normal reactions”, but it seems that, giving the fact that, by just being at this age, they have enough to handle, internal and external, they don’t spend too much on categhorizing these reactions, and they end up feeling rejected for not being enough.

Come to think of it, we all tend to feel like not being enough, every time we’re faced with critiques, right?

So, I figured…if all of us would hear more often that we’re enough, that our efforts are seen and appreciated, we would all feel better about ouserves and more inclined to appreciate others too, isn’t it so?

YOU CAN DO IT!

I can’t imagine one time that anyone have said these four words to me, and not feel like I’ m the best, like I could move mountains for and/or together with that person! Right?🙂

A pat on the back is ok, but words are priceless!

We should develop a habbit of encouraging good behaviours! At least with the same consistency that we’re used to observe and blame every little thing that bothers us, that’s inconsistent with our ways of thinking or doing them.

It’s clear for me that, as long as our kids feel this need as well as us do, we should incorporate this into our day-to-day habbits, as quick as possible!

NO ONE IS PERFECT

Have you ever tried to be perfect? For yourself, for the person you love, for your kids?! Have you?

And how this all ended up feeling like?

Dissapointing, exhausting, like not being enough🙂, right?!

Well, it seems like we all need to hear that it’s ok to not be or try to be perfect. This releases the pressure we put upon ourselves and leaves room for self-acceptance and appreciation for one another.

We could see this as a gift, for us and for the ones we love, as HOME should be our place of receiving love, acceptance and appreciation!

I’m proud of you!

I really don’t think I shoul explain this to anyone of us!🙂

Having someone to encourage us is like wind beneath our wings, isn’t it?

We’re inspired to be better, to do more. We feel the appreciation and acceptance, which is said to be part of our essential needs.

I LOVE YOU!

Well, this says it all!

Nevertheless, as we all find out,…, all the other things listed above are needed to be heard, as they are specific and they reinforce this wonderful feeling.

I’ll go even deeper than this, and I would encourage to try and be more specific with this too.

I love your smile; I love your eyes, I love the way you dress are one example.

But, imagine what more could we do if we could say:

I love the way YOU make me feel!

I love the way YOU take care of our/your kids!

I love the way YOU listen to what I need to say!

I must confess…

This post filled me up with joy, gratitude, love. I hope it has that kind of effect on you too, I really do!❤️🤗

And, let’s always remember…

WORDS HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE WORLDS, or destroy them! Let’s then CREATE BEAUTIFUL AND LOVING WORLDS!

LOVE U