We all go through life experiencing different types of struggle.
When we’re a child, we struggle to learn as much as we can and to be able to do it ourselves. But, it’s a joyful struggle, because we don’t really feel the need to always be right, we don’t get to be upset so much about the fact that we did something wrong or that we made a mistake.
Then we become teenagers…and it seems like all we do is wrong and we’re taught that mistakes are not allowed or approved by the majority of people, starting with our teachers our friends, and continuing to feel the same way towards our sibblings or parents.
So…it’s easy to have low esteem and to feel unworthy of love, of attention, of all the good things in life.
So, we become that teenager who still feels like he doesn’t deserves too much, who is struggling to fit in, who feels misunderstood by the parents and often rejected by his peers, all of this happening while there are big personal and hormonal transformation happening to us, without even being capable of recognising all of this.
Oftentimes, this is also the time when we first fall in love. And we tend to put that person on a pedestal, we believe everything they tell us, we fight with everyone for them, we give them our all!
Usually, this first love is also our first big dissapointment. We suffer in silence, we promise ourselves not to do it again, we refuse our parent’s advice and we, somehow, manage to eventually get over this heartake.
Unfortunately, we don’t have the knowledge to look for the lesson and learn from it. We only want the pain to go away and, eventually, it goes away. But we remain exposed to repeating the same mistakes, because we didn’t know what to look for and what to learn from it.
If we have that wonderful parent who is there for us, ready to be patient and who asks the right questions, we have a chance to learn the lesson. But, even though, this is also an age that somehow prones us to feel ashamed and to not ask advice from our parents or from the persons that take care of us.
This is one reason that made me wanna share some traits of the persons we may encounter and fall in love with, persons who’ll eventually hurt us and make us loose our trust in love.
The second reason was to share some light also for the grown ups, who somehow want so much to have someone in their lives, that are willing to close an eye on the red flags they are faced with even before going into a long-term relationship.
I will leave here a link for you to chech it out, if you are willing to be able to recognise these red flags sooner and to trust your feelings.
The Unconventional WOMAN 
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